Denise Richards’ professional biography is long and impressiveāover 95 roles in three decades working on big and small screens, including star turns in movies like Starship TroopersĀ and Wild Thingsand on hit shows like Spin CityĀ and Two and a Half Men. Sheās even played a Bond girl. Currently, sheās bouncing between two juicy roles, appearing on BravoāsĀ The Real Housewives of Beverly HillsĀ and CBSāsĀ The Bold and the Beautiful.
But then you look at her personal resume, and sheās just, well, inspiring: Single mother to three beautiful girls, one of which she adopted on her own, and was diagnosed with special needs. Newlywed after finding love after divorce. And, of course, she could give a TED Talk on co-parenting. For the past fourteen years, she has gracefully raised her two daughters (Sam, 15 and Lola, 13) with ex-husband Charlie Sheen (through thick and thin). At times sheās even jumped in to help care for Charlieās sons, Bob and Max, with ex-wife Brooke Mueller. On top of this, she is impossibly gorgeous at 48. (Seriously, though, if you need to renew your faith in the power of motherhood, read her recent PeopleĀ magazine interview.)
We were thrilled to speak to Denise, in a phone call between her busy shooting and parenting schedule, to ask her about raising teenagers, adopting as a single mom, her thoughts on co-parenting and more.

First of all, congratulations on getting married! How did you know you were ready to get married again and what was your girlsā reaction?
Thanks! I knew I was ready by the man I was withāright away, it felt so right with him and I feel like heās my soul mate and it wasnāt even a question. And my daughters really have a great relationship with himāthey were excited.
You grew up in the Midwest. How are your kids growing up compared to your own childhood?
Itās very different. My parents were still married, and I grew up in a small town outside of Illinois. My daughtersā parents are divorced and in the public eyeāand growing up in a day and age of social media which is different, no matter where youāre growing up.
YourĀ PeopleĀ magazine interview about adopting as a single mom and raising a daughter with special needs is incredibly inspiring and has touched so many people. How have you explained Eloiseās particular challenges to your older two?
Sammy was seven when I adopted her, so they grew up her with her just as I didāit wasnāt as if I adopted her at 7-years-old with a chromosomal disorder and delays. They would always ask me things like āWhen is she going to start talking?ā I explained to them what it is and tell them we donāt know what the outcome is going to be. They love her so much and they donāt know any different.
What has been the best part of adopting for you?
To me it feels like I always had Eloiseāthereās no difference between an adopted child or biological child, or Eloise and my older daughters. Iāve always believed that we choose our parents and she just chose me another way. Sheās my daughter and sheās a part of me.
So beautiful. In addition to adopting, you have been successful co-parenting for years and have become an example of putting your children first. What do you consider to be the key to a successful co-parenting relationship?
No matter what was going on with Charlie over the years, I wanted to maintain peace, and I didnāt want the girls to be privy to any discordāthat meant never fighting in front of them or talking negatively in front of them about their father. Even Ā during challenging times, I never wanted them to feel in the middle or think dad badly about their dad. Parents have to come together, even if they donāt want to be in the same room, for their kids. Suck it upābecause they didnāt ask to be born into a family that splits and shouldnāt have to deal with a parents at each otherās throats. Iām not one where you bash your ex in front of your children. Itās very disrespectful to the kids.
You seem to have this incredible strength. What has gotten you through tough times as a mom?
When youāre a working mom you have to push you through. Itās a constant struggle to make sure the kids are off to school and fed and dealing with fights my older daughters have with each other over the phone. Itās like organized chaos and itās just a juggle.
Do you have a motherhood mantra?
Iām a fairly strict parent and especially as my older girls are getting older, Iām trying to find the balance. Our oldest daughter is a freshman in high school, so [Iām] giving her freedom and keeping consequences in place and keeping her accountable, but also picking my battles. I wouldnāt say I have a parenting style but I was raised with consequences and being respectful. I find some kids are entitled, and thereās a little bit in my opinion too much freedom with certain things and for me that doesnāt work. I want my kids to be respectable and pick up their rooms. Itās so difficult to be their parent, not their friend, right now. Later I can be their friend.
Thatās great advice. How did you decide to do Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and what has the experience been like?
Lisa Rinna is a very good friend of mind and I am a fan of the show. She has a good time on it and I thought Iāll try it and have fun with it! In the past I had a lot of stuff going on that was very public and I couldnāt talk about it at the time. I wanted to be authentic [on the show] and not have parameters and now Iām in a good place to do that. I honestly love all the women and getting to know them and no matter the tiffs, these moms are all good moms and are incredibly supportive of one another.