And then I had a baby and everything changed. I realized quickly, as every mother does, that sometimes it’s just about survival mode and every day, you’re just trying to do your best!
I still have extreme guilt about the judging I did before I became a mother, but one of my goals as an influencer is to do whatever I can to combat mom-shaming and judgement.
The comment was in response to me talking about how my doctor had said it was ok to have a small glass of wine now and then during pregnancy. (I’ve since realized that drinking even small amounts while pregnant is maybe the most polarizing topic on the planet so I never brought it up again!)
My first emotion was fear… Was I going to be a terrible mother because I had a sip of wine at a wedding? Soon after, that turned to anger… How dare this person get inside my head and make me second guess my decisions! Then I got really sad… How would I get through my pregnancy and a lifetime of motherhood if I couldn’t handle one comment?
I knew that it would be the first of many, so my attitude had to change. And guess what? I was right! People have criticized everything from how long I breastfed to what I feed her to our child care choices.
But now when someone is mean or nasty about my parenting decisions, I let it roll off. I remember that it’s their problem not mine and that I know what is best for my family and my baby. No one else can possibly know her the way that I do, and watching her grow and thrive as a happy, smiley little ball of joy is all the confirmation I need to know that I’m doing the right thing.
So, what am I doing to combat mom-shaming?
I’ve started a Facebook group for like-minded mamas who want positive, uplifting support. We have over 1000 moms connecting daily and helping each other through difficult stages, recommending products, and giving advice. It’s so heart-warming to see them all connecting and inspiring each other!
When I get a mean comment, I respond with love and positivity and don’t let it get under my skin. I encourage the person who said whatever it was they said to think about why my decision upset them.
Now, more than ever, women and mothers need to be lifting each other up, not tearing each other down. Let’s shut down mom shaming once and for all!